5 Easy Ways to Be More Romantic
"Bottom line? The extra mile isn't long. Doing little things that show her how much you love and care help her feel the depths of your love."
We all know "that girl." You know, the lucky one?? Whos boyfriend sends her flowers, leaves her love notes and surprises her at work for lunch.
You can't help feeling a little jealous when you see her boyfriend doing romantic things for her ALL the time. (Insert eyeroll)
I know-- you LOVE your man... but you've been dropping little hints he's not quite picking up. And although you've made it known you need more love, fire and romance... it seems to go in one ear and out the other.
Now I'm not talking shit about your Boo. I mean... he's amazing. And you're seriously happy. But sometimes you wish he understood that going the extra mile makes you feel special and important.
Like Susan... the one who gets everything she wants because her boyfriend is perfect (insert another eyeroll).
Well, Gorgeous... don't worry. Because I teamed up with my Twin Flame BT, Mr.Wonderful and asked him to share 5 easy ways to be more romantic and make your girlfriend feel special.
So ladies, get ready to click the share button because you definitely want your Boo to read this!
1. Flowers-- I've overheard Brian say this to his friends multiple times, quote: "If you can't spend $12 on some flowers to see your lady smile then you're a dumbass." (He's a Scorpio, they tell it like it is) He explains that in every supermarket there are buckets of flowers by the checkout stand. For $12 you get to surprise your Boo with something beautiful, that smells good and will make her smile every time she looks at them. WORTH IT.
2. Dinner-- BT says take this a step further and make it at home from scratch. It doesn't matter if you don't know how to cook, find a recipe on the internet and bust out the apron. Spoiler alert: Even if you burn it, she'll be over the moon that you TRIED. (Plus wearing an apron makes you 10 times hotter).
3. Love Notes-- One morning leaving the house I reached into my purse to grab my keys and I found a note that said "have a good day, beautiful!" I ran back in the house and jumped into his arms. "Did you leave me a love note in my purse?!" "Maybeeeeee" he says with a smile. And I gave him the biggest kiss. What I didn't know was that he left 4-5 more love notes all over the house. They said things like "Beautiful inside and out" and "You mean the world to me." He even left one from our pup that said "My Dog Mom is really pretty and super nice." It made my heart want to explode! (Heart eye emoji)
4. Make a sack lunch with a secret love note inside-- Again, it doesn't have to cost you much. Make her a yummy lunch and stash a surprise note inside. Not only will it make her day, but all the girls at work will swoon, too. Brownie points with her best friends? Check.
5. Take her to a place she mentioned when she thought you weren't listening-- He says here in parentheses that (they never think we're listening-- wink wink) So when you pull up to that place she's been wanting to go? She will know that you CARE about the things SHE cares about. Which makes her feel valued and special.
6. Take her somewhere that is meaningful to you-- When BT and I first started dating he was obsessed with taking me to his favorite places. He took me camping where his family camped every year. He took me to his Grandma's house and taught me how to fish in the river he fished at growing up. We went to the annual Fort Bragg trip with his parents and their friends for a seafood cookout. He showed me so many things there like abalone diving, kayaking, swimming, paddle boarding and all kinds of fun. Taking her places that are meaningful to you will show her that you want to bring her into your world and you want her to experience these special things, too.
And 7? Get her a Puppy-- this one won't be for everyone. But BT is a major dog and animal lover, so I think he threw that one in there just because. LOL.
Bottom line? The "extra mile" isn't long. Doing little things to show her how much you love and care will help her understand the depths of your love. This helps her feels safe and confident in your love, which creates a lot of trust. And when a woman trusts you, it's the best feeling in the world... FOR BOTH OF YOU!
These little acts of service will take your relationship to the next level, deepening and strengthening the bond between you. Your Boo will feel so loved and supported that she will head out take on the world with her Boo by her side.
Head over to my IGTV to watch the video where I speak more about this subject and show how you can "woo your boo" in 5 easy steps. Oh and P.S. If you like the video, share it with everyone you know! ;)
Love Shannon & BT
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Hey Gorgeous! Thanks for stopping by my blog. I'm writing you today because I've been in your shoes.
I might not know you, but I do know your hopes, dreams and deepest fears.
I know you're settling for less than you deserve because deep down you feel like you can’t find anything better.
I know you need to make a change, but you're scared because you're afraid of the unknown.
I know you worry about how you'll do it all on your own so you don't take action.
I know that you desperately want love from a committed man who would never hurt you or break your heart.
You long for commitment from a man who gets stars in his eyes when he looks at you.
You want him to give you his WHOLE heart, and be pure, honest open and loyal.
You want someone who has your back, thinks the world of you, shows up for you giving his 100% and above all, you want to FEEL his love.
You want someone you can trust... not just a lover but a LIFE PARTNER. You want a best friend who is also sexy as hell.
You want someone to drive you wild but also handle you with care. But deep inside you, you are very afraid. The fear can be crippling because you're afraid to let down your heart wall and fully give yourself to another.
You say things like : “I'm ready to meet the love of my life." But deep down, you aren't sure if it's really going to happen.
Despite all of this, you still BELIEVE in love. And you want it so bad, your heart aches for it.
I completely understand. Because I was once that girl too.I am here to show you that you CAN have all of those things. Good guys DO exist and they WON'T break your heart. The perfect person is out there right now and he's looking for someone EXACTLY like you. And when he finds you, he will love you to the ends of the Earth. He will do anything to see you smile and keep you happy. And he will have so much gratitude that he finally found you.
There will be work to do on your end... but the work will be worth it.
Women like us... we're different than most. And even though we still struggle with insecurities, deep down we BELIEVE in our own magic.
We know what we bring to the table and we know how valuable we are. Stop holding back. It's time for you to get INTENTIONAL about your live life and CREATE what you want.
SPOILER ALERT: Love isn't a game of chance, it's a game of manifestation. You can't manifest what you don't believe.
Start believing that you deserve love and that your wildest dreams can and WILL come true!!!
XO Love Shannon
We are deep into Day 3 of Soulmate School and things are starting to get REAL JUICY.
I'm not the easiest of teachers, you know. And sometimes a little tough love is just what we need to help us open our eyes a little.
Today for Day 3 of Soulmate School, we had to dig deep and take a look at our pasts to see who we need to forgive. Forgiveness is pretty tough for most people. And... I get it. Believe me. I am one stubborn little thing and sometimes the LAST thing I want to do is forgive someone. Especially when I feel like they don't deserve it.
So I get it... Forgiveness can SUCK.
But let me tell you why they say forgiveness sets you free. Because energy in motion stays in motion. What this means is, the energy that was running between you and your ex is still running no matter how far apart you are or how long has passed. And it will continue to run in the same energy pattern until an outside force creates a change.
When I first realized this I almost choked on my coffee. I knew immediately I had to change the energy of my past so that I could REALLY be free once and for all.
I don't know about you, but I DO NOT want anything to do with my ex, and I especially don't want the energy of our relationship following me around like a black cloud.
So I took action and applied higher energies to the lower energies so I was able to transcend the past and let it go.
I know that sounds tricky, but it's actually very simple.
So today in Soulmate School, whether my students liked it or not, they had to forgive. Kicking, screaming and dragging their feet.... forgiveness... FOR THE WIN!! My students received special worksheets and exercises that help make the process simple and easy.
I made it easy on purpose.. because the process isn't meant to get you all worked up about the past. It's designed to help you gently let go of the ENERGY of it, so that you can finally be free.
This is Self-Love and this is HEALING. And I don't care what anyone says... we ALL need healing.
I never said Soulmate School would be easy, I just promised it would be worth it.
Love Shannon Nicole XO
“An object in motion will not change it's velocity unless an external force acts upon it.” -Newton's First Law of Motion
Here’s the thing about breakups that most people don’t realize. You’re not really broken up because of Newton’s first Law of Motion.
Do I have your attention yet?
Newton’s first Law of Motion states:
“An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion unless acted upon by an outside force.”
What that means is that something that is sitting there will continue to sit there unless moved. And something moving will keep moving unless something stops it.
How does this apply to a breakup you ask? Because the energy that was running between you and your ex will stay running until you consciously create an energy SHIFT.
This is also why most of the time therapy or counseling doesn’t work. Why? Because you’re TALKING about what happened… why it hurt you, how you feel about it and blah blah blah! Further ADDING energy to the energy that was already active and running in your VIBE!
So… for those of you who thought you could just bail on your past, try to push this person out of your heart and mind and move forward… SURPRISE! You are still very much attached to this person on an energetic level.
This will create all kinds of fuckery for you in the most subtle ways. You might not notice it at first…
But those energetic cords that linked you together are still very much there and active af.
That “ol’ ball and chain”... yea… it’s still shackled to your ankle and you’ve been lugging it around unknowingly.
How does this create a problem for you?
Well, simply put.. You can’t move forward. You can’t truly let go. You cannot fully give yourself to another because that person who did you wrong? Is STILL there.
Hello darkness my old friend.. I just can’t seem to shake you. Well, DUH.
You can’t start a new chapter of your life until you close the old one.
Most people don’t know how to do that. They think leaving the situation is enough. They think time will heal old wounds. They think meeting someone else will do the trick. But again, NOPE.
If you desire to detach, release, clear, heal and let go so that you can move forward to create something new-- I want you to know that, you CAN.
But in order to fully disconnect from the past, release the past, create an energetic shift and let go you have to actually TAKE ACTION.
The Breakup Package is my most popular coaching package for a reason. Because without an outside force… nothing truly changes. Energy in motion stays in motion. You’ll still be running that same energy that was attached to your ex and it will continue to create turmoil for you on a subconscious level.
Not to mention your new partner will FEEL it. And how can you fully give yourself to another if you haven’t closed the last chapter of your book?
Let’s start writing a new story… here’s the deets:
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Each session includes:
1 Cord Cutting Session
1 Reading with Tarot & Oracle
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Weekly Action Steps to Keep You on the Right Path
Space is limited and books up quick. Don’t wait, start today. Click below to reserve your space. Take action to help yourself once and for all. So you can finally heal and let go and fully give your whole self to the person who actually deserves you. #energycoach #healer #vibewithme
"Existence is vibration. When we separate something into its smallest parts, we always enter into a strange world where all that exists is particles and waves. The fact that everything is in a state of vibration means that everything is creating sound." Masaru Emoto
I bet you didn't realize that you are a sound healer. You might think that sound healing is for those who have studied with a guru or who have taken classes and have special certifications. But what if I told you that you that you are a natural born sound healer and that you are using sound to help realign your energy daily without even knowing it?
Would you believe me?
Most people are unaware that we born with the ability to heal ourselves. We know that when we get a cut our body creates a scab and heals it up. We know that when we catch a cold our immune system fights it off. But what we don't realize is that, when our energy falls out of balance, we naturally do things to help bring ourselves back into harmony.
Here are ten ways that we can naturally and easily use sound in our day to day lives to bring our energy into a more peaceful state.
Music is a gift from the Divine. We can use music to help calm or soothe us and help bring our energy into a harmonized state of being. We can also use music to inspire us, motivate us and get us up and moving! We can use music to help us “wake up” and “snap out of it” when we are feeling tired and we need a pick-me-up. We can also use music to help us fall asleep. It all depends on the tones and style of music that we choose to listen to. To use music to help shift your mood, choose music that resonates with how you want to feel.
When you feel pain, tension or resistance in your body, try “humming” to that area, softly. You can use sound from your own body, to break up energy blocks or release pent up energy that is creating imbalance in your body. Begin by slowing your breathing and feeling love inside of your heart. Next, draw in a big deep breath while “humming” and sending the love and sound toward the part of your body that needs to relax. Do this until you feel the energy shift.
There are many ways that we can use Listening to help us heal. When you’re feeling out of balance, you can put on music to help bring your energy back into alignment. There are many beautiful meditations and ambient music available on Youtube. Sometimes just listening to the sounds of your favorite spiritual teacher lead you through a guided meditation is all that you need to help bring your energy back into a harmonious state.
Throughout your day, pay attention to the words you are speaking. Words have power, as the throat creates vibration as you speak. This invisible vibration is sending energy into motion and shaping energy into matter creating your physical reality. So, pay attention to the words that you speak and ask yourself if they are worthy of what you’re trying to create. If not, change your vocabulary. Choose to speak words that support what you are creating in this world.
There is power in silence. Silence has so many answers to our questions that we struggle with each day. Your silence has a story to tell you. Each day take at least 5 minutes to close your eyes and be quiet. Turn your attention to the third eye and begin to breathe while feeling gratitude in your heart. As you feel your consciousness begin to shift… ask a question to your higher self and be silent until the answer arrives. As you feel your mind wander, gently bring your attention back to your silence and feel for the wisdom that exists inside of you.
The ability to sing is the most wonderful gift from the universe! In my house, we wake up and start the day singing to each other. We make up songs that we sing to our dog and get the day off to a fun start by being silly. Singing is helpful to express emotion no matter what you may be feeling at the time. If you’re feeling happy, you can sing happy songs. If you are feeling sad, you can sing a sad song. Song helps us to express the feelings and the energy of emotions that we are creating from the inside out.
If you watch my live show on Instagram called The Daily Vibe, then you are already familiar with how sound can assist in healing. In Shamanic traditions, they use the drum to release negative energy and emotion that is stuck in the energy field. The vibration of the soundwave from beating the drum introduces a dissonant wave that breaks up any stuck energy in the energy field that needs to be released. I also use the Quartz Crystal Singing Bowls to re-tune the frequency of our chakras to bring our energy back into harmony and balance.
Nature is the Universe’s own personal sound healer. If you go out into nature and close your eyes you will begin to notice all of the soothing sounds that natures offers us. The leaves rustle in the wind… the creek babbles as the water flows. The birds sing and the waves crash. The frequencies of nature help to bring your energy back into balance and cleanse your energy.
Believe it or not, you already know how to heal yourself with sound. Think back to a time when you have been frustrated in the past. Did you let out a loud “urrrgh!” Or, think back to when you took a bite of some tasty food, did you immediately say “mmmm”? We express the emotions that we are feeling inside naturally through sound. So the next time you’re irritated, take a minute to go someplace where you can let out a big sigh… or if you’re feeling happiness, let out a nice laugh! Laughter is the best medicine because we are encouraging the flow of positive emotion through sound.
Observing or listening to the breath has many positive qualities. This is why in meditation we focus on the breath. When you bring awareness to the breath, which is life, and infuse the breath with positive feeling or intentions, you lift and raise your vibration and mood. This helps bring your energy into a state of balance and helps you to feel deep feelings of happiness and wellbeing. You can also use the sound of your breath for relaxation and releasing negative emotion such as stress and feelings of unease.
These are just a few of my favorite ways to use sound for creating harmony and balance in your daily life, and the best part about it is that everything listed here is free! Your energy is in your hands and the Universe provides us with everything that we need to heal and manifest within our own bodies and minds. I hope you use some or all of these techniques to bring more peace, flow and happiness into your own life!
Big hugs and lots of love,
P.S. If you know someone who might benefit from reading this blog, please pay it forward and give it a share! Thanks so much! XO
My life didn't always look like this. No no. My life looked very different not too long ago. I was restless and unsettled inside because deep down I wasn't happy and fulfilled. I felt like something was missing. And I had this burning knowing inside of me that I was destined to be more. I knew that life was meant to be fun. And I knew I still had a lot of exploring to do. Deep down I wanted to travel and get away. I wanted to head out to explore what the big world had to offer.
I started to allow myself to dream as big as the feelings that I had cultivating within me
I knew I wanted to meet someone who had a wild passionate energy running through them so that being with them would make me feel alive. I made a dream board and cut out pictures of couples strolling on the beach. I pasted together images that expressed the FEELING that I wanted to have.
I would look at it at night before bed and then close my eyes... and begin to FEEL what it would feel like to have those things.
Before I knew it, my life started to shift and change
I wasn't sure where I was going or what was coming my way but I decided to stay optimistic and excited that my life was unfolding in such unpredictable ways.
I kept saying to myself "I don't know what's coming.. but I KNOW it's going to be really good!" because "the universe knows exactly what I want and the universe has something really good up her sleeve."
Now my life looks like those photos you see. I met the Wild Spirit Dream boy that I wanted... only he isn't a dream anymore. I made it my reality.
You can create a brand new life. All you have to do is this:
The key is to stay consistent
You have to FEEL it on the daily. If you want it bad enough you will commit to creating it. Energy can be shaped into anything but you have to be consistent. Don't give up right before it happens. You have to BECOME THE ENERGY OF IT, daily. You have to see it, feel it, hear it, taste it, smell it, EMBODY it. You have to go within and cultivate the energy of it. And then, it's like the energetic template of it has been created so it's manifested. Then the universe brings it to you through the Law of Attraction.
Be determined and stay on the path
When you start to change your life like this sometimes other things have to change too. You are shifting and expanding. The old has to fall away as the new begins to take shape and form.
The people who knew you might not vibe with you anymore. The might look at all of the magic you've created and they say "she's so different now" or they cast judgement because they don't believe in your dream. When really you're not different at all. You just stopped holding back and playing small. You stepped into the highest expression of you, the one who was there all along.
During times like this you have to ask yourself
Do I really give a fuck about what they think? If I allow the opinions or judgments of others to stop you, everything you have worked for begins to shrink away. And that power and momentum you've built will dwindle back down right where you used to be.
I say fuck that
Keep going no matter what kind of fear you feel. You have to show up for your new self every single day and keep being the ENERGY of what you're trying to become. Eventually in unexpected hours, you aren't trying anymore... it's just become manifest and you are the brand new you that you were dreaming about before.
This week on The Daily Vibe we will focus on creating a new reality
Each day we will spend some time becoming the energy of our new reality. We will feel how we want our lives to FEEL. I will remind you that you are a powerful creator and that creating a new life is like changing the channel. You tune into a new frequency by becoming the energy from the inside out. I can't wait to see what we create together.
See you tomorrow on The Daily Vibe. XO Love Shannon
One of my favorite things to do is be outdoors. Nature helps to keep us grounded, clear and energized.
Trees, plants, sunshine and prana are so important for our health and well being. The sun recharges our energy when we feel drained. We are solar powered beings. Deep breaths of fresh prana will clear your energy if you have absorbed negativity. We are responsible for keeping our energy clear, energy does not clear itself. And walking with our feet on the Earth grounds us, which helps us to live from a more centered place.
If you're feeling down, low or fatigued... try getting outdoors to rejuvenate and recharge. Nature is our helper and we need to be connected to live our best lives.
After time spent outside it always helps me to feel more at peace and inspired. Nature gives us exactly what we need, every time.